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Angry parent accused of threatening to kill Lisle volleyball coach   Leave a comment

It happened in Lisle. I don’t if this guy was a normal dad or a little on the crazy side, but it makes me think about the pressure we put on our kids regarding extra-curricular activities. I really notice it around here (Huntley area) with football and softball. For some it think it rules parents lives. There are parents who tailgate (yes, beer bongs were present)  at pee-wee football games. The coach had to tell them to stop it.

I understand sports, and other “out of school” activities are important. When it starts to take over our kids, and our lives, it becomes a problem. We, as parents, really need to take a step back and look at our behaviors, attitudes, and values. We need to look at what is really important and make sure our kids are well-rounded individuals so they can be prepared for adulthood. Yes, sports are important, but so is education, social skills, community involvement, spiritual development…the list goes on. Let’s make an effort to raise our children to be well prepared to move into adulthood.

Time to step off of my soapbox. Here is the article:

By Josh Stockinger – Daily Herald
After his daughter was benched at a regional match, a Lisle man threatened to kill a high school volleyball coach and rape the man’s family members, prosecutors said Monday.

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John Kasik, 61, also is accused of battering Lisle High School Athletic Director Dan Dillard during a confrontation at school offices.
Police arrested Kasik at his home on the 4400 block of Arbor View Drive on Friday. He was charged with felony telephone harassment and misdemeanor counts of battery and disorderly conduct.
Authorities said Kasik’s temper flared after his daughter was pulled from a volleyball match that her team lost on Thursday. Afterward, he followed Dillard’s vehicle, pulled up next to him and began shouting about the game, said DuPage County State’s Attorney Bob Berlin.
Dillard invited Kasik to discuss the issue at school the following day. But Kasik went home and left numerous text messages and voice mails threatening Varsity Volleyball Coach Matt Hrubesky, Berlin said. The messages continued for about five hours, from 9:30 p.m. to 2:30 a.m., according to police.
“He left voice-mail messages telling the coach he’s going to rape his wife and daughter and kill him,” Berlin said.
Kasik arrived at the high school the following morning for a meeting that quickly turned hostile, according to the charges. At one point, Berlin said, Dillard tried to end the discussion but Kasik blocked the athletic director’s path out of the office and “bumped” him repeatedly.
Kasik posted a $30,000 cash bond Monday and was released from police custody. He could not immediately be reached for comment.
Dillard declined to comment, and Lisle Unit District 202 Superintendent Keith Filipiak and Lisle High School Principal Pete Sullivan did not respond to messages. Hrubesky could not be reached.
Kasik could face up to three years in prison if convicted of felony harassment. Berlin said the case was charged as a felony rather than a misdemeanor because it involved a death threat.
“It’s unfortunate when parents react this way and take their frustrations out on school personnel,” he said. “We will protect these people so they can do their jobs and not have to worry about these kinds of threats.”
Kasik has no prior criminal history in DuPage, according to court records. He is scheduled to appear Nov. 19 before Judge John Kinsella.

Posted October 30, 2012 by sotpyouth in General, Sports

When Texting Turns to Torment   Leave a comment

When Texting Turns to Torment

From commonsensemedia.org
In CyberbullyingMobile and communicating by Caroline Knorr, on 03.01.2012

Dealing with Digital Harassment


Too much texting, too much calling. Are your kids at risk?

  • 76% of people ages 14-24 say that digital abuse is a serious problem.
  • Compared to 2009, young people in 2011 were significantly more likely to step in if they saw someone “being mean online.”
  • Some of the most frequent forms of digital harassment include people writing things online that aren’t true (26%), people writing things online that are mean (24%), and someone forwarding an IM or message that was intended to stay private (20%).
  • Digital abuse isn’t generally the act of strangers — perpetrators are usually people the victims know well.
  • (All of the above are from the 2011 AP-MTV Digital Abuse study)

Advice & Answers

 

What Is Digital Harassment?

 

Digital harassment is when kids and teens use cell phones, social networks, and other communications devices to bully, threaten, and aggressively badger someone. While it’s a form of cyberbullying, “digital harassment” is a bit different because it usually takes place between two people in a romantic relationship.

Certainly, lots of young people conduct healthy relationships and use their online and mobile lives to stay connected to each other. But not all relationships are balanced — especially with teens, whose emotional lives run at peak speeds.

Some relationships can become manipulative and controlling, and teens use the digital devices at their disposal to act out. A few texts a day can turn into a few hundred. Relentless and unreasonable demands escalate. The abuser presses for things like the other person’s passwords(so they can check up on them) and sexy photos and forces their significant other to unfriend people whom the abuser doesn’t like. They may spread lies, impersonate someone, or even resort to blackmail.

 

 

Why It Matters

 

Digital harassment has real consequences for those who’ve been targeted. A 2011 poll conducted by MTV and the Associated Press found that targets of this kind of abuse are more likely to consider dropping out of school, engage in risky behavior, and even think about suicide.

However, there’s a bright spot in all this. The survey also found that kids and teens who discover digital harassment among their friends are now more likely to intervene if they see someone being mean online than they were in 2009.

Large public-awareness campaigns — most notably MTV’s A Thin Line and The Family Violence Prevention Fund’s That’s Not Cool — are helping teens recognize when staying connected crosses the line into digital harassment. These campaigns use kids’ idols — like Justin Bieber — and entertaining videos to give teens the language they need to identify and end digital harassment.

Parents can support their teens by understanding that relationships these days are often played out both online and in public — and kids need their parents’ guidance in establishing appropriate boundaries for healthy relationships. Young love is complicated enough without the added pressure of constant access and public scrutiny. The tips below can help you help your kids navigate these murky waters so they can avoid digital drama for themselves and their friends.

 

 

Advice for Parents Read the rest of this entry »

Posted March 15, 2012 by sotpyouth in Bullying, Family, General, School, Technology

How to prevent teenagers from sexting and protect them from other teens who do   Leave a comment

 

With the ubiquity of ever more powerful cell phones, sexting has become an increasing concern for the parents of teenagers and preteens. This article describes how you can protect your child from the dangers of sexting, an activity that has major implications for long-term online reputation and electronic privacy.

Sexting refers to sharing nude or near nude pictures, usually via a mobile phone. Most experts distinguish between sending naked photos, an activity with serious privacy, health and legal implications, and simply sending suggestive text messages, which is less harmful.

Understand why teenagers engage in sexting. Read the rest of this entry »

Posted November 9, 2011 by sotpyouth in Dating, General, Media

Parents can help teens manage overscheduling stress –   Leave a comment

USATODAY.com By Kim Painter

Lauren Biglow, a college freshman, once was one of those high school students with crazy, stressful schedules — high-level academics mixed with sports, clubs, community service, and way too little sleep, real food or unstructured fun.

But her parents, she says, were not part of the problem.

“I would come home overflowing with stress over the fact that I had so many things to do simultaneously. And they would say, ‘This is crazy, listen to yourself. You need to take a breath, re-evaluate and decide what you need to cut down on.’ ”

Biglow says she did cut down, a bit, and ended up taking fewer Advanced Placement (AP) classes than some peers. She dropped one of her three sports. It worked out: The spring graduate of Los Altos High School, in California, is at highly regarded Northwestern University in Evanston, Ill. Read the rest of this entry »

Posted October 14, 2011 by sotpyouth in Family, General, School

What if your teen is a bully?   Leave a comment

It’s the news no parent wants to hear: Their teenage daughter has been sending demeaning e-mails to another girl in her grade or that their son has been regularly harassing another boy in the hall at his school.

While it’s painful and confusing if your child is the victim of bullying, it’s also painful and confusing if your child is the one who is dishing it out. If it’s the latter, what do you do?

Let’s face it, to be confronted with the fact that your kid has been a bully is embarrassing. It’s not just a mark against your child, but a mark against you. You can just imagine what the other parents are saying.

“They always seemed like good parents. But it just goes to show you never know.”

You are mad at your kid for their behaviour, but also at how this behaviour reflects on you. To feel this way is very normal, but many kids of nice, loving parents engage in bullying behaviour. Having a kid who’s a bully does not mean that you have been a bad parent. Read the rest of this entry »

Posted October 11, 2011 by sotpyouth in Family, General, School

2011 Video Music Awards   Leave a comment

In a post from Jonathon McKee, he list four truths that came from the 2011 Video Music Awards shown on MTV. 

Parent’s, we’re not going to stop our children from listening to music that is misguiding, so we should learn about it and instead of ignoring it, embrace it and learn to talk to our children about it.

Read on…

For the most part – and we stress “for the most part” – this was one of the tamer VMAs in recent history. (We’ll elaborate on the few exceptions later.) Also setting this awards show apart from the past were the coolest live performances in recent memory. Lady Gaga opened the show with a strong performance of her hit song, You and I (No question, Gaga is a very talented performer). Taking the stage throughout the remainder of the night would be Pit Bull, Adele, Kanye West and Jay Z, Beyoncé, and Young the Giant. Chris Brown also did a cool dance medley, and Bruno Mars sang a tribute to the recently deceased Amy Winehouse. Finally, Lil Wayne performed at the show’s end. (Umm…he’s one of the exceptions we just mentioned.)

All in all, MTV seemed to place the emphasis on – wait for it – music. Yeah, we were surprised, too. As we watched this year’s music awards show that actually centered on music, we observed four inescapable realities about youth culture. Here they are: Read the rest of this entry »

Posted September 5, 2011 by sotpyouth in General, Media, Music

Drug addiction usually starts before 18   Leave a comment

The top public health problem in the United States is not obesity, as many might guess, says one public policy organization. The National Center for Addiction and Substance Abuse, also known as CASA, leaves no question as to where it stands on the subject, titling its latest study “Adolescent Substance Use: America’s No. 1 Public Health Problem.”

The report released Wednesday finds that the consumption of alcohol, the use of tobacco and marijuana and the abuse of prescription drugs is on the rise among teens.  That’s not terribly surprising but this might be:  CASA found that 9 out of 10 adult addicts started using before the age of 18,  compared with  1 in 25 Americans who started using these substances at age 21 or older.

Another finding: 75% of high school students have used addictive substances Read the rest of this entry »

Posted July 21, 2011 by sotpyouth in General, School

Facts & Dreams

"Each man should frame life so that at some future hour fact and his dreaming meet." -Victor Hugo